One of the things I love the most about my work with people is that I get to help them understand how they work.
And that they are working just right!
My first task is just holding the knowledge that what my client’s mind-body is doing is awesome. I *know* that there’s nothing wrong with how someone is acting or reacting.
Sometimes this means just being with someone as they experience stuff.
Sometimes I get to help someone uncover the possible root causes for their patterns.
But all the time, what we find is that there’s nothing wrong with someone, at a base level.
I get it! There are coping strategies that are less socially condoned as others. But when we look through the lens of unthinking, base survival strategy, we are doing what we have needed to.
My refrain is, “what you did, and are doing, is great! You’re still here.”
The second part of helping folx understand their mind-body is education. I get to teach people a little bit about how their nervous system works, and techniques to prime-the-pump so to speak.
Both of my parents are lifelong teachers, and I caught the bug. The thing I remember most about teaching is that you have to have several ways to say the same thing. Everyone learns differently, and knowing how to explain stuff in various ways makes concepts accessible to more people.
This is one of the reasons I love working longer-term, one-on-one with folx. I get to really see how someone learns, and I’m able to assess whether they’re *just done* for that moment. In which case, we move on- and know most things come back around when they need to.
I know most people don’t really grasp a concept on the first go-round. And topics come up again and again, to be discussed or explained with different metaphors or anecdotes.
I love this work so much that I’m working on figuring out how to do it with more than one person.
Since I only work virtually, at this point, it’s a harder to notice how everyone in a group setting is digesting info.
But I am excited to get going and figure out good ways to do this teaching thing.